When Life Surprises You – How To Survive When Your Life Takes A Drastic Turn

I remember when I first found out I was pregnant. I was shocked!  Needless to say it was unplanned.  I always wanted kids, but later on in life.  I had an amazing career and getting knocked up before I was married was not on my list of aspirations.

I control my fate and my reality, so I thought. I decided to make the most of it, by doing it the enlightened way.  I wanted to have a completely natural child birthing with self-hypnosis and without the use of drugs.  I figured if anyone could use their mind to put them into a self-hypnotic state for a pain-free delivery, it would have to be me, the mind science expert.

The day Kaylee was born, there was nothing natural about it! I had complications that forced me to be induced.  The strong drugs strengthened the intensity of my contractions.  The doctor asked me if I had any requests and I said “No matter what, I just do not want a c-section”.  I continued to go on without an epidural, breathing through whatever pain I was experiencing.  Twenty-four hours of labor later, my baby’s heart rate was decelerating quickly.

The nurse came to my room and told me that I had to have an emergency c-section. I asked “Is my baby going to make it?” She responded “We don’t know”.

My worst nightmare was happening. I began to tremble in fear.  Scary thoughts began flooding  my mind.  What if I lose the baby?  What if I lose my life? This is not how I planned it.  This is not what I wanted.  I did everything right.  How could this be happening to me?  I control my reality by my own thinking, where did I go wrong?

I took a deep breath and did my best to remain calm and fully accept the moment just as it was. I said a prayer and without resisting the moment I visualized a successful surgery and a healthy baby.

At 1:21am Kaylee-Reed Lerch was born, a healthy red-headed blue-eyed beauty (I’m her mother, I’m biased). As I held her in my arms, I realized that for whatever reason, Kaylee chose to begin her life that way, despite what I wanted, planned and hoped for.

We can do our best to focus and visualize how we want things to turn out. But sometimes things happen that are beyond our control.  Life does not always go as planned.  And sometimes we’ll have surprises that we least expect. The important thing is to know that everything is going to be ok. Do not resist it.  Accept the moment fully.  There’s a higher reason that we may not be aware of.  Do not give up.  Just continue to focus and visualize about what you DO want.  Continue to practice.  Do not stop believing.  If I let it stop me, I would have missed out on many opportunities.